For The First TIme in Forever...

Usually in a Disney movie or any fairy tale the ending comes along and they all live happily ever after. Someone, usually the prince or man of the story, rushes in and saves the day from whatever the trouble was. If only life could have the endings of a fairy tale.

With blood cancer the talk turns to a bone marrow transplant, and Heather was no different. The greatest fear is that if the patient is not in remission at the end of Round 1 (part a & b) that a transplant will be the only option to try to save that person’s life. Our situation with cancer was no different and from the initial first visit Dr. F was talking about a bone marrow transplant. Both Jenn and Wendy had their HLA tested to see if they were a viable donor. This was a life-saving sacrifice that both sisters were willing to take to save Heather. Our ending was that neither sister was a good enough match for Heather so she would face an unrelated donor. The love of one sibling to sacrifice for the other is a great gift.

Of course in the movie FROZEN, Elsa accidentally strikes Anna and the cold settles in her heart. I find it very interesting that the Trolls keep saying that a cold head is easier to change that a cold heart. To turn a cold heart the ultimate gift of love must be done by the one with the cold heart for someone else. Unconditional, self-sacrificing love will thaw a frozen heart.

Heather had someone that she loved very, very dearly and would sacrifice anything for. It was very difficult on her that their relationship had taken a cold turn. One night while Heather and I were in the hospital, snuggled in bed, she told me that if the one she loved could be brought back she would gladly have cancer and allow God to use that to have that person back. This was the love of one for another. She was willing to go through cancer.

In FROZEN at the end as Anna is trying to reach Kristoff to get a true love’s first kiss she notices that Hans is about to kill her sister Elsa. Elsa is broken, crying and sitting on the ice as Hans told her that Anna died after she struck her heart with her power. Elsa is devastated to learn that she has killed her sister. Anna runs to stand in front of Hans as he raises his sword to kill Elsa. Anna sacrificed for Elsa and was turned to ice, as we watch the last breath escape her lips. Elsa hugs and sobs as she believes that Anna has been turned to solid ice. In the end Anna’s gift of love unfroze her heart and she was restored to life. How you unfreeze the world is the gift of love.

Our ending was not so happy as when Heather died and took her last breath there was not some magic to come bring her back to her earthly life. But I do know first-hand that Heather would be thrilled and amazed that the one she was willing to sacrifice for is back and I know beyond a doubt that Heather would tell me it was worth it in the end. She would be amazed at the growth in this amazing person. For the first time in forever I would never willingly sacrifice one to save another, but in this earthly life her sacrifice was one unconditional love and in the end I am thankful that if Heather had to die there was a small reason I can think of as to why.

People either love or hate FROZEN and I am not sure why this movie has such hate about it. The reality is it is a movie. PERIOD!! Did you catch that? A MOVIE…it is entertainment and maybe there is a message that if you turn off your cold heart you might be able to see what that is. I do not buy into all the reason why people hate movies and most of the time I wonder how in the world they got this meaning from the movie. SO maybe next time before you say you hate this movie, you might take my words to heart and see the love between sisters, the concealing and don’t feel and the pure love sacrifice that is really at the heart of the movie before making your judgment.

Each day brings me closer and closer to April 20^th, the day that changed my world forever. Most of the time I feel the world pities the poor grieving mother. While I would like to have your compassion and be allowed to mention and talk about Heather, Only the strongest women are giving the task to become grieving mothers. While I would not choose it, God did for whatever reason I may never know…I just know that he did.